God has placed in my life many who I consider God-Sisters. This past week, on February 10, 2021, one of my first God-sisters lost her life to Covid-19. I can’t think of my university days without thinking of Cathy (Thompson Jones Rueff). Cathy was a bright light in the world and our world is darker today, simply because she is no longer in it. Someone said she had the trifecta of beauty, brains and character and they were right. She lived her life in compassion for others.
When I was a freshman and unable to make it home my first Christmas, she took me home with her and made me part of her family. I’ll never forget that Christmas Eve, she joined me outside to dance in the snowflakes that fell, unexpectedly. I still have the Christmas stocking she made me. She and her parents welcomed me and made me a part of their family. Cathy introduced me to Rick Springfield, especially her favorite song, Jesse’s Girl; mentored me through relationships; and brought joy into the lives of all she met. She was wise, fun, serious, silly, and empathetic. We traveled, laughed, played, dated, and were a major part of each others lives. Despite being 2 years ahead of me in college, she treated me as an equal.
I haven’t seen Cathy since 1992, she got married, graduated, and had children while I came home to Canada. Twelve years ago, we reconnected through Facebook. Cathy is one of those people who stick with you in life. She was a part of my life when I was discovering who I was, and she became an integral piece of that discovery. She wasn’t alone, there was a whole group of men and women who contributed to who I became, but she was a huge influence.
One thing I’m realizing in my grief is that there are always regrets when someone dies. There will always be something we wish we had done or said. I wish I’d been able to make it back to Missouri to see her. I wish I’d called or messaged sooner and more often. I miss her already. I’ll miss knowing she’s there to call, there to share our moments with. I’ll miss seeing her happy Facebook posts. I’m thankful we made so many memories together, and I will cherish those.